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Over the TOP or not?


You’re too fancy for me!…….

Is it really the children who are over the top or did the parents make them that way?  I saw a headline on yahoo about rapper Lil Wayne having this all out super Sweet 16 party for daughter which ended with her getting 2 really fancy High End vehicles… AT 16!!!   I guess if you got it.. you get it?    That article made me think about my kids.

Over the holiday weekend I really had to have a heart to heart sit down with my sons.. the eldest in particular.  He got all worked up over these newly released Jordan sneakers that ran $200 or so. Now granted compared to a Maserati or BMW… $200 sounds like chomp change right?  Well the lesson I wanted to teach him had less to do with the price tag but more to do with being fiscally responsible.  I told him that every new Chotsky that hits the market you don’t HAVE to HAVE.     He just thought he was going to die if he didn’t get those sneakers.  He went on to explain that if he didn’t get them that day there was a great risk that the price would double because they were so hot.  Totally unaffected and un-phased I shared with him that there were more pressing things that needed to be paid for than these shoes.  As a budding adult you can’t just live in the moment or the here and now.   He seems to minimize or forget that next semester in college is approaching which will be a financial drain, books, food etc, nor that his greatest most pressing need is winter clothes.   I guess I was making too much sense.  He sat there agitated and with each new sentence his face got sadder and sadder.    Again it wasn’t about the money, but then again it was.  Even though it would be my funds to pay for the shoes I explained that it would be reckless of me on his behalf to buy these shoes.

“BUT I HAVE A JOB THAT STARTS MONDAY”, he exclaimed.   Okay great… because of the store he works for it’s a requirement that you buy clothes from that store in advance in order to work there.  Pricetag $120.  I hate that store but he likes working there so .. oh well.  Again, the life lesson is.. don’t count your chickens before they hatch.  You’re walking into the job in a net negative loss simply because now you owe me $120 to pay back the startup clothes.   Now I’m making too much sense.  He sulked and looked a mess for the rest of the evening.  I went on to tell him that I’m simply trying to demonstrate responsibility.  If I were as impulsive or reactionary as he is we’d probably be homeless or hungry.   It’s really easy to live in the moment and present but harder to save for future needs.    In the end he got the message but still wasn’t happy.    So to the lil Waynes of the world.. I wonder what message is being passed by buying a child unrealistic uber expensive vehicles.  What happened to a starter car?  Oh, that is her “starter” car.  Okay.. got it! 🙂  I’m trying to raise financially responsible and independent of me sons.   Lessons in motherhood.  #goodmombadwife

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